Pregnancy is hard. The third trimester is harder. And the ninth month is the hardest!
I’m currently in my ninth month of pregnancy – fortieth week to be exact. The anticipation of going into labor is ridiculously frustrating. I question if every strange movement is a contraction, but so far none of them have been painful or reoccurring. I tell my baby that today is a great day to be born and exclaim how badly we want to meet her, but so far she is content staying put.
During your last couple of weeks of pregnancy, you start to really feel pregnant – if you haven’t already. I started sleeping less and less, my feet, hands, and face started to swell, my pelvis and hips felt like they were falling apart, I had to pee every half hour, and my emotions started going haywire. I am well aware that I am a mess and don’t need anyone reminding me of that or bugging me about labor or baby stuff, but people are going to do it anyway.
Here are my “favorite” things that often occur during the ninth month of pregnancy:
How Are You Feeling?
Every. Single. Person. is going to ask you how you are feeling… as if it isn’t obvious or if they haven’t been there before. It amazes me that moms will ask moms-to-be how they are doing a week before their due date. C’mon people, use your common sense! Obviously, I am exhausted, achy, tired, emotional, and ready for this baby to be out. Don’t ask me how I’m feeling unless you really want to hear me drone on and on about how much being nine months pregnant sucks, because it sucks.
I’m So Excited To Meet Your Baby!
Lots of friends and family and general acquaintances will exclaim how much they can’t wait to meet your baby. I know they are saying this to be sweet and kind and most are genuine, but I never know how to reply. I typically go with, “Oh I know, I can’t wait either.” But really I’m saying is, “I’m WAYYYY more excited than you, but thanks.”
Walking Your Baby Out
By thirty-eight/thirty-nine weeks, you are generally ready for this baby to come out. You’ve had enough of the feeling like crap, the nursery is done, the bags are packed, and now all you’re doing is waiting… and waiting… and waiting. One thing you will inevitably start to do is walk. And walk a lot. Walking can help induce labor naturally by utilizing gravity and by the swaying of your hips. I went on five walks on Monday alone.
You’ve Gained That Much!?
People will ask you how much weight you’ve gained. In the beginning, I didn’t mind sharing and I still don’t mind necessarily, but the reactions I get are so across the board that I’m starting to want to keep the number to myself. I’m not ashamed, but I am a bit self-conscious about it. Just this past weekend, I was asked how much I’d gained and I said forty pounds and the reaction I got was this person gasping and repeating “forty pounds” in a long, drawn out, breathy reply. I gave them the benefit of the doubt and assumed they didn’t mean anything by it, but seriously… I’m carrying a living human being in my abdomen that has to eat and grow just as I have to eat and grow. If you’re going to ask the question, you have to be able to respectfully handle the answer.
Good Luck With Your Baby Coming On-Time
This one is probably the most irritating. As a pregnant woman who sees a midwife on a regular basis, has successfully completed a pregnancy/birthing class, and has read approximately three pregnancy/birth books, I would appreciate you giving me the courtesy of assuming I know a little something about this process. Knowing when a baby will be born is not an exact science – technically a baby can come (healthy) as early as thirty-eight weeks and as late as forty-two weeks. So as ready as I am for this baby to be born, I have been telling friends and family that we are crossing our fingers she comes any day now and I’ll tell people that I don’t see all the time that hopefully I’ll have good news for them this week. Many have replied very rudely or in a joking manner that I’m silly for thinking my baby will come early or on-time… and look at me as if I’m an unprepared idiot. Thanks, but no thanks for that inconsiderate and unwanted comment. There is nothing wrong with hoping that your baby comes early or on-time.
So if you have any friends that are pregnant, take it from my personal experience, and refrain from asking the annoying questions or reacting in an inconsiderate way on certain topics. Just be encouraging, keep your unsolicited advice to yourself, and/or talk to her about something besides the pregnancy. Trust me, she will thank you!!