Happy New Year Family and Friends!
For me, twenty-nineteen is going to be a very special year full of milestones, new beginnings, and challenges. It will be a year of changes and learning + trial and error. But most of all, it is a year I have been looking forward to!
With every new year, comes new goals (or resolutions – if you’re into that sort of thing) and this one is no exception. For twenty-nineteen, I have put together a list of eleven goals to work toward. Some are specific and some are vague, but I hope to accomplish them all!
My Twenty-Nineteen Goals
Rebuild My Faith
After experiencing a miscarriage, my faith took a nosedive. I didn’t want anything to do with a God that would take away my baby, so I stopped going to church, praying, reading my Bible… I pretty much stayed away from all things religious. It took a lot of self-reflection and honest conversations with my husband before I felt ready to open my heart and mind to God again. It wasn’t until very late this past year that I got the courage to attend a church service. I wasn’t sure what to expect, but I didn’t hate it and I felt like it was exactly where I needed to be.
My goal is to continue to gradually open myself back up by attending church regularly, joining a small group, opening my Bible to read and receive, and to actually pray.
Birth Our Baby Naturally
Disclaimer: I am aware that births are unpredictable. I respectfully ask that you please keep your comments about birth emergencies to yourself.
Before becoming pregnant, childbirth was my number one fear. When I got pregnant the first time, I had every intention to birth in a hospital with a doctor and an epidural. When we found out we were pregnant again, we decided to do things differently, specifically use a midwife and go the natural route. I will talk more about this decision later on this year, but ever since choosing to birth naturally, I have felt more at ease and fear free about bringing a child into this world than I ever have before. We have already signed up for a childbirth class geared toward natural birthing methods and I cannot wait to start attending. My husband and I are aware of what it takes to birth naturally and that our birth may not go according to our plan, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t going to have a plan. Our ultimate goal is to bring a healthy baby girl into our family.
Save More, Budget Better
Although Jeremiah and I reached our savings goal last year, I believe that we can do even better! Last year, we still ate out a few times a week and bought way too much unneeded and unnecessary items. I think that if we are careful and diligent, we can put even more in savings.
I am so excited about my Golden Coil planner that came in the mail last week. It is a completely customizable planner that allows you to choose the type of layout you want and what “extra” pages you would like to add. I chose a monthly budget add-on, so that I can see exactly how much income we are bringing in, how much all of our bills add up to + when they are due, how much we have leftover, and plainly lay out money-related goals. I have already set up our budget for the month of January and I am so so thrilled to see how well we stick to it.
Last year, my goal was to exercise daily. Ha! What a joke! That was a bit too ambitious for me, so this year, I am just focusing on exercising period.
With being pregnant, I know that adding exercise into my routine would be extremely beneficial to my overall health as well as recovery time. But making exercise a priority now will help it already be a priority when I need to start shedding all the extra weight come post-baby. I’m not expecting myself to start jogging miles or lifting weights, but just a long walk a few times a week and maybe some prenatal yoga will do the job.
Meal Plan & Cook At Home More
If it isn’t obvious, we eat out a lot! Like a lot a lot! I don’t enjoy – nor am I very good at – cooking and we are both still living off those college glory days where you barely had any financial responsibility and it was acceptable to eat fast food every day of the week. Well it is finally sinking in that those days are over. Now that we do have financial responsibilities, savings goals, and a new addition on the way, I plan to utilize meal planning + cooking at home are to help meet these goals.
Through meal planning, I can prepare myself in advance for the nights I will be cooking as well as be able to create a thorough grocery list for only needed items. Going aisle by aisle can really get us into trouble, because we end up with all this food that doesn’t actually make anything. Cooking at home will not only save us money on the gas it takes to get to a restaurant or fast food joint, but it will also help in creating leftovers for us to take to work the next day. So now I just have to psych myself up for all the time I am about to spend in the kitchen.
Monthly Family Meetings
One thing I really want to implement is a monthly family meeting where Jeremiah and I can sit down and discuss finances, goals, and events. Really, we can discuss anything, but the goal is that we stay on the same page all year. I hope to hold this meeting towards the end of every month as a means to reflect on the current month and then schedule and plan for the next month. I don’t really have any details on how this will look yet, but I am excited to see if it helps us.
Last year, I challenged myself to read 12 books – one a month. I surpassed this goal by reading 17!! But I still want to strive to read even more. Reading is one of my favorite pastimes that I sometimes forget about when life gets busy or hard or after I read a really bad book. This year I will be challenging myself to read 24 books – two a month. With the baby on the way, this might seem impossible, but I think having something to look forward to doing when the baby is napping or with grandparents will be very beneficial to not getting too overwhelmed or stressed out.
Also, let’s be friends on Goodreads!
Buy A House
Purchasing a house is probably our number one goal this year!! We have been planning and saving for over a year now in order to get out of the apartment life and move on to bigger, better things. Now that we have a baby on the way, it just seems like the perfect time, because our tiny apartment is just not big enough for three people + two animals. Last week, we started contacting realtors to get the process started. Any tips would be highly appreciated!
Love My Husband Better
Putting ‘love my husband better’ as a goal may seem a little odd or weird, but don’t get me wrong – I love my husband && he knows it! – but I think there is always room for improvement. Last year, I read The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and I found it very inspiring and eye-opening to understanding what Jeremiah needs from me in order to keep his “love tank” full. He and I have different love languages, so as easy as it is for me to show him love in the ways I receive it, I know I can do a better job at showing him love the way he receives it. I have been slowly trying to implement new ways, but I want to make this a priority, so that we don’t lose touch with our relationship when the baby comes and we are both sleep deprived and irritable.
I always like to make a goal to blog more or journal daily, but I just never seem to achieve this goals. I’m not sure if it’s because I put limits on myself or if I get overwhelmed by how often I expect myself to do these tasks, so this year, I am just encouraging myself to write often. It doesn’t matter where or when or even what… I just want to get in the habit of writing.
Monthly Planned Date Night
Once you get married, you don’t necessarily put a lot of thought into date night. You see each other every day and you eat your meals together and you do just about everything together… so sometimes life just feels like one long date, until it doesn’t. Remember to date your spouse is so important. To put aside the craziness or stress of every day and be together.
Every now and then this happens to Jeremiah and I. We go to dinner and just talk or complain about work or life or bills. I want to make a point this year to plan out a date every month where we leave all of our work issues, baggage, and drama at home and just have fun and be together.
If you made it this far, I applaud and thank you! In the past, I have tried to keep my goal list short, but this year, I figured what the heck – the more goals you have, the more chances you have of achieving something. 🙂
What are your goals this year?